Stonewalling & Pre-fighting

Pre-fighting
Predicting and stating negative reactions BEFORE the “event” happened: What effect did this have on the relationship? How can someone say another person is going to be angry at a certain time when that person has done the same thing dozens of times without being angry?

Random example: Telling someone they will be annoyed if they eat their food cold. But that person has eaten their food cold many many times and been okay. Sometimes even happy while eating their food cold. A couple times they were annoyed while eating cold food. There were other influences why that person was annoyed or angry while eating cold food so the cold food was only a small portion of the reason for being annoyed.

Is being annoyed a few times while eating cold food a reason for another person to predict the exact same will happen the next time? Is it a reason to deny/take away their chance to eat cold food, especially if the other person clearly expressed they want to eat the cold food because they are hungry? What do you do if the person said they will be happy to eat the cold food, even though cold food is not ideal or the best to eat?

Stonewalling
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