Music for Therapy? Yay!
[more…]Video Warning – Tears ahead Worries of the day
What do you want NOW? vs. What do you want MOST?
At work, my team lead said something that instantly made me tear up and get emotional on a phone call this morning. My manager (different person) noticed signs back in December that something is not right with me. I was forgetting equipment all the time, missed/late for appointments, abnormal productivity and generally not in a…
Read more
Goodbye – Flight Home (voice note & video)
Voice note Today, your first day back from Colombia, will be the last time I email you in an attempt to find answers from you. I want you to be happy and feel filled with love…even if it’s not with me. You deserve it. In Wales, they would say you have a heart of gold,…
Read more
Alcoholics Anonymous and External Help With Drinking
My father has been a “sober alcoholic” for 35 years. My mother moved to Canada with him when she was 7 months pregnant with me. They had no social network and only a job offer for my dad. He was physically and verbally abusive when he drank. Football and bar fights with his friends in…
Read more
Alcohol and Failure – 1 Year Ago Today
One year ago today, I sent you a video in response to a heartbreaking letter you wrote to me. In part of it, I was talking about my relationship with alcohol and how much I needed to change.
Recently, I was hiding my drinking from you and everyone else in my life from September…
Read more
Three years later – Same problems. Never Completely Healed.
I came across old photos exactly 3 years ago when I started renovating my basement in St. Catharines, about 6 months before Cris and I started dating. It made me realize that so much has happened in my life but I’m in almost the exact same situation. Feeling the affects of depression (different causes). Feeling…
Read more
Cognitive Distortions
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
The Book and why I want it…
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
Stonewalling & Pre-fighting
Pre-fightingPredicting and stating negative reactions BEFORE the “event” happened: What effect did this have on the relationship? How can someone say another person is going to be angry at a certain time when that person has done the same thing dozens of times without being angry? Random example: Telling someone they will be annoyed if…
Read more
Narcissism – Overused and the Potentially Dangerous Accusations?
draft unfinished
Voicenote: Reflection on Stress
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
Voice Note: Relationship Communication Challenges
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
Being Faithful, Honouring Monogamy, Cheating and Honesty.
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
The airport incident.
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
Dealing With Depression in Silence – The Difficulties of Asking For Help
What are the effects? Is it because they don’t understand? Was it my fault for how I communicated the decline of my mental state? Do they care?
Amelia, my monster.
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
The Book. The Painting. The Phone. The Desk.
What is the connection? Is it fair to judge someone by how they treat things that have different meaning to them than to you?
The Apartment Project
Possibly the biggest year and opportunity of my life to improve my (by extension our) future financial security. Could I have completed the project if our relationship was “whole”? Was it really a choice between a relationship now and a secure future later or did I manufacture that in my own head? If we still…
Read more
My “Crazy” Emails: Volume 1 to ??
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
Sell the boat. Move to Toronto.
He commutes to Hamilton. She works from home….in Toronto. Makes sense? What does it mean? How could that work? Would there be enough patients for the interim?
Some of My Struggles – Why Did She Call Them “Complaints”?
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
Underestimating the Affect of My Personal Baggage: Life Maintenance Bags and Emotional Bags
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
My “affair” with alcohol…
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
Loving Where You Live vs Loving Your Partner: Dichotomy or False Dilemma Fallacy?
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
Saying what you feel and they think you’re saying what they want to hear.
When speaking from the heart, then having someone question your motives and if you’re being truthful: Is it fair or reasonable to become frustrated? How do you express yourself differently so your thoughts/feelings are understood? Is it their own past experiences that are pushing them to think you’re being deceitful?
Thoughts on adoption/fostering.
How did two people from opposite corners of the world simultaneously cross paths in my world and change my views on a decision I made 10 years ago?
Skating with Amelia: Parallels, Metaphors and the Invitation Decline
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.
Analogies from The Coach
You’re a coach of a pro sports team and your star player is hurt, not completely injured yet but hurt. They keep saying “I’m in pain. It’s getting worse. I can only survive a little longer”. Do you sit them out and change your expectations for the team? Or do you keep the star in…
Read more
Video Logs – replacing the calls
There is no excerpt because this is a protected post.